Sunday
Dec122010
B.F.F.E.A.E.
Sunday, December 12, 2010 at 5:14PM Is it standing beside them on their wedding day? Or checking their “lipstick on the teeth” status before they before a photo op? What about finishing sentences or figuring out what restaurant to pick without quarrel?
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| From 2010-12-12 |
Is it helping with those little white lies - the ones that get us all through life? Is being a true friend congratulating on new apartments, first marriages, second divorces or all the children’s births in between?
Is it the hand holding, the long conversations, or the hair being held out of their faces while they puke at 2 a.m.?
I think I’ve learned that it’s more than that.
It’s knowing when “no” just isn’t ok. When tears are the only way to say “I know, and I’m sorry it’s like that”. Friendship is not just holding hair back, but remembering that contacts must be removed, phones must be charged, and teeth should likely be brushed on night’s when they have 4 too many adult beverages.
And then it’s de-tagging (GREAT friends delete) the photographic proof of said evening before 8 a.m.
A true friend will do all of the things you would normally do for yourself, and then do all of the things they would do, or want done, if they were in the same situation. It can be a hot rag over their neck because that’s your favorite thing when sick. Friendship can mean you replace something they never knew was missing. It can be the one non-consistent thing in our lives that makes it all worth living - because this type of inconsistency, the spontaneity of knowing someone is truly caring for you as if you were their own, is what life is about. It’s what friends are for.
Is it the hand holding, the long conversations, or the hair being held out of their faces while they puke at 2 a.m.?
I think I’ve learned that it’s more than that.
It’s knowing when “no” just isn’t ok. When tears are the only way to say “I know, and I’m sorry it’s like that”. Friendship is not just holding hair back, but remembering that contacts must be removed, phones must be charged, and teeth should likely be brushed on night’s when they have 4 too many adult beverages.
And then it’s de-tagging (GREAT friends delete) the photographic proof of said evening before 8 a.m.
A true friend will do all of the things you would normally do for yourself, and then do all of the things they would do, or want done, if they were in the same situation. It can be a hot rag over their neck because that’s your favorite thing when sick. Friendship can mean you replace something they never knew was missing. It can be the one non-consistent thing in our lives that makes it all worth living - because this type of inconsistency, the spontaneity of knowing someone is truly caring for you as if you were their own, is what life is about. It’s what friends are for.
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